How to Attract a Mature Woman

Winning over a mature woman takes effort, skill and patience. You have to be confident, patient, and ready for a challenge. Dating mature women is a completely different ballgame to dating women in their twenties or thirties, but all the more rewarding for it.

So what do you need to do to charm an older lady?

1. Don’t flake - this seems self-explanatory, but there is nothing women hate more than a flake. If your Wednesday cougar night is part of a rotation, get your act straight - know who you’re seeing when.

If you don’t set good groundwork early on, your date will be less forgiving of scheduling clashes and - extreme scenario - ghosting later.

1. Be honest - this tip, like the previous one, could appear in any decent 'how to attract women' article, but there's a reason why it's more relevant to mature women, MILFs, and cougars. The more advanced in years your love interest is, the less likely she is to put up with immature, selfish lies.

Don't tell tall tales, and be straight up with her when you need to be. She'll appreciate your honesty, and you won't ever get caught out and put on the spot.

1. Be nice - when she agrees to go on a date with you (and even beforehand), be on your best behaviour. Mind your manners. Smile! Laugh at her jokes, but only if they’re funny - there’s nothing less attractive than a fake laugh. Which leads us to...

1. Be real - you can bet that sexy older woman you're chatting up has had her share of insincere suitors fawning over her. If you can relax, talk to her like she’s a human, and build a real connection, you can bet she will appreciate it.

Humour goes a long way towards building these connections. So does honesty and sincerity. So...

1. Be a good listener - look her in the eye when you’re talking to her. Remember things she tells you, and refer to them again if you can. If you find a way to let her know you thought about her or remembered something she said, let her know! Everybody likes to be thought of.

1. Ditch the pick-up strategy - you don't need to do anything cheesy or creepy, like 'negging' an older woman, or making sure you touch her on the arm every thirty seconds. Touch her on the arm as much as feels right, and as much she seems to want you to - and if you can't tell, ask.

And how much should you neg her? That's not at all, dude.

1. Let her make the first move - now, this one requires a bit of finesse, but if you can pull it off, so much the better. If you are perceptive enough, and you're confident that she's going to, consider letting your older lady make the first move on you.

It's a gamble, of course - if you've mis-read the situation, and she wasn't interested, you'll miss out - but if you're sure of yourself, letting a cougar take the lead can be very rewarding.

1. Take care of yourself - here are five very quick things you can do which will make you much more attractive to older women, and in general. Are you ready?

Brush your teeth, cut your nails, trim your hair (and beard), take a shower, wear clean clothes.

That's it! If you're not hitting every single one of these markers, take a step back and check over your morning routine. All these things are so quick and easy, but they also make a big difference if left undone.

And finally...

1. Be mature - because nothing attracts a mature woman like maturity.